“He/She is not my type.”
“He/She is too fat/Skinny.”
“He/She is too old for me.”
“I don’t date outside of my race.”
“He/She has kids.”
“He/She is too dark/too light skinned.”
“He/She is too tall/short.”
Almost everyone has had to deal with some form of the statements I mentioned above. Someone may have said one of these statements to you, or you may have said it to someone else. All of the above are far-too-familiar conceptions that prevent friendships and relationships from blossoming and flourishing.
This is just my opinion, but these are narrow minded and closed minded ways of thinking, and I feel like no one should form conceptions of a person based on what you see alone. There is so much more to a person besides what is on the outside. There is a whole universe of beauty and love that is often overlooked and never experienced because we love to “judge books by their covers” and not by their content. Lord knows that I have been guilty of this, but I give thanks to The Most High for growth and progress.
What I am trying to say is that maybe we need to have a more open mind when we are trying to form friendships and relationships. Get to know the person on a deeper level by talking to them and listening to their heart and spirit. Honey, I can tell you, with experience that you will find exactly what you need when you open your mind and stop thinking inside a confined box. You may have your ideal/perfect friendship or relationship in mind, and because you have excluded the possibility of any type of relationship with a person because of how they look or act, every relationship you have been in has failed. A lot of times, we are looking for our “wants” instead of our “needs”.
One day, I opened my mind and my heart to the most amazing, sincere, loving, wonderful human being, who just happens to be older than me, Caucasian, has kids, and not someone I would initially approach. When I got to truly know him and trust him after dating him for a few months, I realized that… I can’t be without him. He realized the same thing and… put a ring on it. We have been married since 2017 and every day gets sweeter and sweeter, better and better. He is my everything beneath The Most High. I can’t imagine life without him. If I had judged and dismissed him without getting to know him for who he really is, I would have missed out on the best thing in my life… my needs and my wants, because he is both now.